Sorry I didn’t post yesterday, two things happened. First, I had meetings all day. Then, I started thinking about those meetings. This post is about the second bit.
So when I’m busy like that and running around, I try my best to stay in the moment. But this isn’t always easy for me, as I tend to stay in my head a lot, worrying and analyzing. This is bad. It means I’m thinking instead of listening. I’m focused on myself instead of others.
At the end of the day, when it’s calm and quiet, that sort of self-analysis gets so much worse. My mind starts running at a million miles an hour. I lie on my back and replay all that happened during the day. And what do I focus on? The negative comments. The criticisms. The awkward moments. Look, yesterday wasn’t a 100% terrible day. It had plenty of good moments: interesting conversations, laughs, and I learned things. All good things.
But I have trouble shaking the negative moments. I can have 10 positive things happen, but when that one negative thing happens, it’s as if the 10 good things never happened. It can be a meeting that didn’t go as well as expected, or criticism of my work, or a rejection letter. It bums me out. It drives me nuts. And it’s all I can think about. It’s depressing.
So here’s the bleg part. How do you get over the negative comments? How do you respond to them, learn from them, and then move on? I’m not talking about ignoring it. I’m talking about getting better because of them without letting it dominate or depress you. I’d love to hear any tips or tricks you use. Please post them below.
And for my readers also on the East Cost of the US, good luck this weekend. Who knows what Sandy will bring. And extra good luck to those running Marine Corps Marathon in DC. It’s a great race, and you’ll have fun. Even if Sandy rains on your parade.